Weddings are stressful. From a small scale affair to a full blow production stress and a mountain of decisions are lurking at every turn. When you find yourself in the deep end of planning it can be so hard to remember that all of this is being done for love and celebration. Today I want to encourage the couples who are stuck right there in the mess of it all- You are doing a fantastic job. Give yourself some grace today to enjoy this time rather than be overcome by stress.
Remember that this is about a marriage
Weddings are awesome and I love to attend them. While the party is great the best part to me is being present to witness the commitment that is being made on that day. One of the best ways you can give yourself grace in the planning process is to try and keep the whole thing in perspective. This celebration, this party is about so much more that great food and lovely decor. You are making a very serious commitment to another human being and that should not be entered into lightly. When things aren’t going quite how you would like them to try and remember the real reason you are going through all of this effort. Find ways to spend time planning elements of the big day with your fiance, turn mundane wedding planning tasks into date night opportunities.
You know all the plans but your guests don’t
Keep in mind that you may have started out this process with really lofty #squadgoals and wedding dreams but your guests don’t know any of those plans. If there is an element that at any point along the way seems like too much then know that it is ok to cut that thing. Don’t spend another moment on something at this wedding that doesn’t bring you joy. If the very thought of coordinating a sparkler send off gives you the chills then don't do it. Know that not one of your guests will miss an idea that only lived in your mind (and your Pinterest boards).
This is your first rodeo
Another factor to remember is that this wedding is likely the largest party you have (or will ever throw). No one is expecting you to become and expert wedding planner over night. There are so many people you can ask for help along the way navigating this process. From a day-of coordinator to a trusted friend who has gone before you don’t feel ashamed to ask for a little assistance when needed.
If you are in a place where it seems like this planning will never come to an end please feel free to drop me a line. I'm happy to offer free support, encouragement and logistic advice.